Idk about you guys but my soul can have lots of desires and feelings about stuff that “doesn’t always add up.” That can lead to thoughts like
- “I shouldn’t feel this way.”
- “I should be over this by now.”
- “It’s already been/only been X amount of time.”
As confusing or frustrating as this process is, I’m slowly folding in curiosity and self-compassion. What is my soul really wanting? Am I rushing through my recovery process? Healing is unique for everyone and almost never acknowledge time on a calendar logically.
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#soul#healing#selfcompassion#therapy#love#vulnerability#ease#begentle#logic#emotion#breathe
@1 week ago
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grad pics or it didn’t happen 😝🎓.
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Truth be told I didn’t think I would graduate. I actually graduated later than my class.
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Out of my 4 classes: I got 1 failing mark, barely passed another and for the rest I couldn’t even submit the final papers on time because I was so overwhelmed with anxiety and panic. I believed whatever I would turn in was total garbage.
On top of that I needed an extension to finish my dissertation because yet again I thought my writing was trash.
_
I remember being disappointed in myself thinking ‘this was my second masters degree (light flex 😂) why am I doing the worst out of my peers?’ My low self esteem really took me into some low feeling dark days.
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But after opening up about my struggles to friends and other students (and also going to counseling) I realized so many people in school were having it rough too. Not only did I feel less alone but I also started to feel less pressure to prove something and feel more comfortable in my own skin.
_
Little did I know this would lead me to pursue The Woke in Translation Project. A project where I travel the world through the use of my own finances, video recording interviews with complete strangers on the topic of race and identity.
Although I still have the need to prove to people and myself that I’m enough and what I’m doing with my project is somehow valid. I’m learning (slowly) to let that go and be more gentle and proud of what I have done.
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Looking back at all the struggles and lessons learned I’m forever grateful for my experience at Kings. #foreverkings.
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. #selfcompassion#selflovejourney#healingjourney#recipesforselflove#solovelysofree#begentlewithyourself#findbalance#youarepowerful#youareenough#youareworthy#mentalhealth#trustyourself#staypresent#authenticself#emotionalwellness
@6 months ago
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Name 3 things you ♥️ about yourself?
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I asked folks on my stories to ‘ask me a question.’ And a very kind and supportive friend asked me this question because they know I’m trying to work on self-esteem and self-love.
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My appearance is never a go to when thinking of things I like about myself. And it’s not because I’m not trying to be superficial. I’ve always struggled to think positively about my physical appearance. And honestly not too long ago I would say some really terrible things to myself in the mirror about how I looked. Whether it was about my my acne or teeth or my hair..I spent a lot of time hating how I looked.
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Thankfully, with a lot of work I’ve come a long way from that. And I am committed to challenging my beliefs on beauty and work to actively dismantle the destructive beauty standards taught to me. Self-love is still a work in progress but I’m glad to be working on it. —
So in honor of (self) love day...here’s me up close and personal (with a filter for aesthetic💁🏾♀️😂).
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Curious about what I do like about myself...checkout my stories.
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You are beautiful..even if it’s hard for you to say it to yourself 💖.
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#happyvalentinesday❤️ #closeup#advancedselfie#youareworthy#selfcompassion#selflovejourney#healingjourney#recipesforselflove#solovelysofree#mentalhealth#trustyourself#staypresent#authenticself#emotionalwellness
@6 months ago
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💖💫🌻✌🏾.
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Be gentle on yourself. —
What negative beliefs do you have about yourself?And how are you trying to dismantle them?
__
I was ashamed to speak about my home life as a child. I grew up in a home that struggled with alcoholism, domestic violence, and I experienced verbal, mental and physical abuse all the way up to adulthood.
__
I shared this yesterday in my ‘instavlog’ when speaking on procrastination. *SWIPE* to see notes on how our experiences growing up can create negative beliefs about ourselves (bottom line) and how that can create unhealthy habits (rules for living) that may keep us in negative cycles including avoiding/completing something.
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My bottom line was that I am a bad, unimportant and unlovable person. In order to function in the world I believed I needed to not let others see my true self, do what people expected of me and only felt valuable if I received some kind of recognition/praise.
__
Thankfully my self-love journey is helping to dismantle these beliefs. But understanding the effects of my past gives me perspective. Knowing that my brain was programmed to believe a certain way for so long helps me to understand why I do the things I do.
__
This allows me to be gentle on myself. As well as approach a situation like procrastination with compassion, rather than shame and judgement. Which then allows me to then act in a healthier and authentic way. Rather than continue down a path that leads to more negative thinking.
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#selfcompassion#selflovejourney#mentalhealthawarenessmonth#mymentalhealthlookslike#healingjourney#recipesforselflove#solovelysofree#begentlewithyourself#findbalance#youarepowerful#youareenough#youareworthy#mentalhealth#trustyourself#staypresent#authenticself#emotionalwellness#blackgirlstraveltoo#travelnoire#blacktravelfeed#blacknomad#melanintravel#shetravels#shewhotravels#globelletravels#shutupandgo#wokeintranslation#racedates
@2 months ago
209
small steps lead to big change 🥾⛰.
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that was part of the message Pastor @carllentz shared last night @hillsongnyc, speaking on climbing the big mountains we have. Otherwise known as those big goals or challenges we’re trying to overcome and achieve.
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It’s no surprise that in this day and age we tend to resent the small steps it takes to get up the mountain. We or at least speaking for myself 🙋🏾♀️ I often resisted the small steps and wanted to find quick solutions to fix my problems. I mean c’mon there aren’t tons of selfies of us deep in the thick of things when we’re going through those tough steps. So it makes sense that because of the culture and society we live in..we’re pretty eager to just get up the top of the mountain.
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But just like climbing up a mountain...to get to the top it’s not going to be easy or pretty. But the work you put in, little by little gets you to where you want to go.
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And so it’s important 1: To be open and honest about our struggles getting up the mountain. Sharing about the hard work we put in to climb our mountains help folks feel less alone and also helps us to be more real about the process it takes to achieve a goal.
2: Be proud of the small steps! Like getting out of bed each day, doing that work out, making that appointment, showing up to that meeting, outlining that paper..all those small steps you take, make sure to acknowledge the work you’re doing and be proud of yourself for it.
And most importantly remember not to compare yourself to others. Cause we all have different mountains and so we’ll all have different ways of getting up them 💖.
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What small steps are you making that you’re proud of yourself for? —
#selfcompassion#selflovejourney#healingjourney#recipesforselflove#solovelysofree#begentlewithyourself#findbalance#createyourtrail#youarepowerful#faith#youareenough#youareworthy#mentalhealth#trustyourself#staypresent#authenticself#emotionalwellness#travelnoire#blackoutdoors#unlikelyhikers#diversifyoutdoors#blacktravelfeed#blacknomad#wegotoo#melanintravel#globelletravels#shutupandgo#joylab#wokeintranslation#racedates
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Idk about you guys but my soul can have lots of desires and feelings about stuff that “doesn’t always add up.” That can lead to thoughts like - “I shouldn’t feel this way.” - “I should be over this by now.” - “It’s already been/only been X amount of time.” As confusing or frustrating as this process is, I’m slowly folding in curiosity and self-compassion. What is my soul really wanting? Am I rushing through my recovery process? Healing is unique for everyone and almost never acknowledge time on a calendar logically. . . . #soul #healing #selfcompassion #therapy #love #vulnerability #ease #begentle #logic #emotion #breathe
grad pics or it didn’t happen 😝🎓. __ Truth be told I didn’t think I would graduate. I actually graduated later than my class. _ Out of my 4 classes: I got 1 failing mark, barely passed another and for the rest I couldn’t even submit the final papers on time because I was so overwhelmed with anxiety and panic. I believed whatever I would turn in was total garbage. On top of that I needed an extension to finish my dissertation because yet again I thought my writing was trash. _ I remember being disappointed in myself thinking ‘this was my second masters degree (light flex 😂) why am I doing the worst out of my peers?’ My low self esteem really took me into some low feeling dark days. _ But after opening up about my struggles to friends and other students (and also going to counseling) I realized so many people in school were having it rough too. Not only did I feel less alone but I also started to feel less pressure to prove something and feel more comfortable in my own skin. _ Little did I know this would lead me to pursue The Woke in Translation Project. A project where I travel the world through the use of my own finances, video recording interviews with complete strangers on the topic of race and identity. Although I still have the need to prove to people and myself that I’m enough and what I’m doing with my project is somehow valid. I’m learning (slowly) to let that go and be more gentle and proud of what I have done. _ Looking back at all the struggles and lessons learned I’m forever grateful for my experience at Kings. #foreverkings. . . . . . #selfcompassion #selflovejourney #healingjourney #recipesforselflove #solovelysofree #begentlewithyourself #findbalance #youarepowerful #youareenough #youareworthy #mentalhealth #trustyourself #staypresent #authenticself #emotionalwellness
Name 3 things you ♥️ about yourself? __ I asked folks on my stories to ‘ask me a question.’ And a very kind and supportive friend asked me this question because they know I’m trying to work on self-esteem and self-love. ___ My appearance is never a go to when thinking of things I like about myself. And it’s not because I’m not trying to be superficial. I’ve always struggled to think positively about my physical appearance. And honestly not too long ago I would say some really terrible things to myself in the mirror about how I looked. Whether it was about my my acne or teeth or my hair..I spent a lot of time hating how I looked. ___ Thankfully, with a lot of work I’ve come a long way from that. And I am committed to challenging my beliefs on beauty and work to actively dismantle the destructive beauty standards taught to me. Self-love is still a work in progress but I’m glad to be working on it. — So in honor of (self) love day...here’s me up close and personal (with a filter for aesthetic💁🏾♀️😂). ___ Curious about what I do like about myself...checkout my stories. ___ You are beautiful..even if it’s hard for you to say it to yourself 💖. __ #happyvalentinesday❤️ #closeup #advancedselfie #youareworthy #selfcompassion #selflovejourney #healingjourney #recipesforselflove #solovelysofree#mentalhealth #trustyourself #staypresent #authenticself #emotionalwellness
💖💫🌻✌🏾. —- Be gentle on yourself. — What negative beliefs do you have about yourself?And how are you trying to dismantle them? __ I was ashamed to speak about my home life as a child. I grew up in a home that struggled with alcoholism, domestic violence, and I experienced verbal, mental and physical abuse all the way up to adulthood. __ I shared this yesterday in my ‘instavlog’ when speaking on procrastination. *SWIPE* to see notes on how our experiences growing up can create negative beliefs about ourselves (bottom line) and how that can create unhealthy habits (rules for living) that may keep us in negative cycles including avoiding/completing something. __ My bottom line was that I am a bad, unimportant and unlovable person. In order to function in the world I believed I needed to not let others see my true self, do what people expected of me and only felt valuable if I received some kind of recognition/praise. __ Thankfully my self-love journey is helping to dismantle these beliefs. But understanding the effects of my past gives me perspective. Knowing that my brain was programmed to believe a certain way for so long helps me to understand why I do the things I do. __ This allows me to be gentle on myself. As well as approach a situation like procrastination with compassion, rather than shame and judgement. Which then allows me to then act in a healthier and authentic way. Rather than continue down a path that leads to more negative thinking. _____ #selfcompassion #selflovejourney #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #mymentalhealthlookslike #healingjourney #recipesforselflove #solovelysofree #begentlewithyourself #findbalance #youarepowerful #youareenough #youareworthy #mentalhealth #trustyourself #staypresent #authenticself #emotionalwellness #blackgirlstraveltoo #travelnoire #blacktravelfeed #blacknomad #melanintravel #shetravels #shewhotravels #globelletravels #shutupandgo #wokeintranslation #racedates
small steps lead to big change 🥾⛰. — that was part of the message Pastor @carllentz shared last night @hillsongnyc, speaking on climbing the big mountains we have. Otherwise known as those big goals or challenges we’re trying to overcome and achieve. — It’s no surprise that in this day and age we tend to resent the small steps it takes to get up the mountain. We or at least speaking for myself 🙋🏾♀️ I often resisted the small steps and wanted to find quick solutions to fix my problems. I mean c’mon there aren’t tons of selfies of us deep in the thick of things when we’re going through those tough steps. So it makes sense that because of the culture and society we live in..we’re pretty eager to just get up the top of the mountain. — But just like climbing up a mountain...to get to the top it’s not going to be easy or pretty. But the work you put in, little by little gets you to where you want to go. __ And so it’s important 1: To be open and honest about our struggles getting up the mountain. Sharing about the hard work we put in to climb our mountains help folks feel less alone and also helps us to be more real about the process it takes to achieve a goal. 2: Be proud of the small steps! Like getting out of bed each day, doing that work out, making that appointment, showing up to that meeting, outlining that paper..all those small steps you take, make sure to acknowledge the work you’re doing and be proud of yourself for it. And most importantly remember not to compare yourself to others. Cause we all have different mountains and so we’ll all have different ways of getting up them 💖. — What small steps are you making that you’re proud of yourself for? — #selfcompassion #selflovejourney #healingjourney #recipesforselflove #solovelysofree #begentlewithyourself #findbalance #createyourtrail #youarepowerful #faith #youareenough #youareworthy #mentalhealth #trustyourself #staypresent #authenticself #emotionalwellness #travelnoire #blackoutdoors #unlikelyhikers #diversifyoutdoors #blacktravelfeed #blacknomad #wegotoo #melanintravel #globelletravels #shutupandgo #joylab #wokeintranslation #racedates